Decisions are funny things. They both determine, in large part, our future and of course are those silly little things that built the construct under which we live. There are tiers of accountability and like clockwork we fall into line through training, time in the trenches, coercion, and most of all whether we want to admit it or not through our decisions.
Notwithstanding our formative years and the decisions made for us by our parents, teachers and the whole host of minders that may have had something to do with our direction early in life, we are still faced with having made the decisions we've made as well we're faced with the outcomes, both good and bad.
So, the question might be, "What criteria, values, system or compass do we rely on when it comes time for decision making?" Is it the Almighty God principle? After all, some people believe that the idea of something to believe in trumps the idea of nothing to believe in. Is the driving principle behind your decision making simply doing the "right thing?" If so, What accounts for the "right thing" being right?
If, as mentioned earlier, there are tiers of accountability they might be best aligned as follows:
Local - Regional - Global (LRG). You can work this scale forward or backward, as long as you accept the notion that we are accountable to ourselves, our family and friends, our community and whatever higher governing body or spiritual sense you may have. Some may draw all decision making and direction from their higher power, and then that "system" of thought and conduct trickles down to all parts of life. Some people may decide "for themselves" to be a good person and build out a future based on self thought propositions. In any case there are markers of accountability that must be acknowledged in order to operate in and navigate through life - Because remember, no one is an "only-one."
The degree to which you put yourself out there concerns the middle ground - the Regional - How prepared are you to operate in the area between yourself and your higher sense of things?
There are no hard-and-fast answers otherwise we'd all be walking around in total agreement. Agreement on the cause for the first cause, what makes up the optimum diet, daylight savings time, whether God is good or should be feared (or both), do video games cause violent outbursts, was Seinfeld really a show about nothing, etc.
The real point seems to be to find a point of acceptable exchange(s) between folks. Instead of "You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours," how about, "Let's scratch each other's back." But scratch in the manner they want to be scratched, not how you want to deliver the scratch. After all shouldn't their expectation of receiving the experience trump your expectation of delivering it?
If we are attempting to break down barriers of resistance in any relationship, from business to personal, wouldn't it make sense to operate under the idea that everyone "Gets More?" This all really comes down to deciding on a new operating basis and decisions that move us in the direction we're going - Which by the way, is not always aligned with where the other person is going.
So, try as we might to stand out from the crowd (which is an admirable trait and, I think, a good and proper operating basis), we must understand that we are all in a constant process of fine tuning our decision making, constantly shoring up our value systems and checking in with our higher sense of things to see to it that we have met our own (the higher sense's) expectations.
More to come, but for now I'd appreciate you sharing this post with friends and family.
All the Best,
Scott Evans
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